To My Ex's New Love

To My Ex's New Love,

It might be weird to write to you, especially about him,especially after one quick little meeting where we barely even caught each other’s names. I promise it isn’t some sort of treatise about how jealous I am and how much I hate the two of you or a list of reasons he’s awful and why we broke up. It’s very much the opposite of that. I wanted to tell you not to let him chase you away. He’ll try. He won’t even realize that’s what he’s doing, but it’s exactly what he’ll do. He tried it with me. He doesn’t feel like he deserves to be happy, so he’ll do little things to sabotage what you have. It’s an old pattern of his, something about his relationship with his father from what a therapist told me once. If you ride it out and call him on it will make your life so much easier.

I tell you this because I really do wish him the best. I know it sounds cliché, but it really wasn’t him, it was me. I needed to make a change, and unfortunately he was part of that. I’m not proud of it, and I often regret the way I handled it, but it was the right choice. He is perfect for me, to be completely honest, but I’m not good for him. You are though; I could see that the moment I saw you two together. I just know how he can be. If you ever want to reach out for advice or just to rant about him, I’m here for you. Please don’t tell him about this letter, he won’t like it. I know he hasn’t quite forgiven me for leaving, and I don’t really expect him to. He’ll deny everything I told you about here, which will really only prove my point.

I think you are the best thing that’s ever happened to him. I hope you two are really happy together.

The Ex